Monday, October 14, 2013

Are YOU a Good-Time-Girl???

Often times we meet super cool women in their 30’s and 40’s who are attractive, have great careers and social lives and love to have fun. They work hard, play hard and are outgoing, spontaneous, adventure-driven women who are always ready for a good time. Men love these kind of women because they’re typically easy going and always up for anything, which means men can call them on a Thursday night at 6pm to see if they want to meet for a drink at 9pm. They’re usually game.
I like to call them “GTG’s” (Good time girls). They’re great girls who are out in the dating field, enjoying themselves and squeezing the balls of life. Fearless and flirty, they can usually tie one on with the best of them. GTG’s live in the moment, do what pleases them and make no apologies for who they are. If they want to sleep with a man on a first date, they will easily allow themselves to get swept up into the moment. Because it feels good….until… (drum roll, please)..They. Start. Wanting. More.

More commitment, more than just a booty call, more courtship, more time with him, more consideration, more clarity, more respect…
Herein lies the dilemma: Men love GTG’s but they marry NG’s (nice girls).
(Disclaimer: GTG’s are nice girls but I’m really referring to nice girls; who usually have traditional values, a lot of respect for themselves and demand respect from a man, rules they live by and they make it clear that they are focused on a serious, committed relationship which automatically puts them in the marriage material category),
The bigger problem is when women start out as GTG’s and try to shift into NG’s. They say they’re fine with a casual relationship (because they don’t want to appear high maintenance or needy) and never push for more in the beginning even though they want it. They’re terrified of rocking the boat or asking the man too many questions or laying down the law. Instead, GTG’s want to be seen as easy-peasie, low maintenance women. But somewhere along the way, they forget to ask for what they want and to remember that men are not looking for a drinking buddy or a ****buddy for the long haul.
I love GTG’s; they’re loads of fun. I just wish they would be more true to themselves. If they’re just out for a good time, that’s totally fine. Just call a spade a spade. Don’t pretend that you don’t want more if you really do. Use your voice.
Men fall in love with women who seem special to them, who value themselves and who they’re proud to bring home to meet their family.
So if that’s what you really want, put down that third drink and start paying attention to what you’re putting out there.

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